When Will You Have Your Next Baby?

Is it just me or is this the MOST asked question to mums? I remember right after having Adam, I had people already asking me when I will give him a brother or sister, and there I was trying to just get back to “normal” with a newborn.

Not only do I find that question unnecessary, it’s also insensitive. Never ask a woman why she doesn’t have kids, when she’ll have a kid or anything to do with kids! It’s just not your business.

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The Debate Between Working Mums VS Stay At Home Mums

Let me start by saying I think it’s absolutely RIDICULOUS that we’re even having these types of debates when we can focus on much important topics. I’ve been on both ends. I’ve recently started working part time and it’s just been so hard working and having to take care of the kids and still do all the other things I use to do. 

Just because a woman decides to return back to work, doesn’t mean they’re abandoning their responsibilities as a mother. They are still mothers end of the day and still do so much more when they get home. Some families need both parents to work to financially afford everything and we all know having kids isn’t cheap. 

And the same goes for stay at home mums, it’s not all rainbows and butterflies and it actually gets so depressing at times. Your life revolves around the kids which means between entertaining the kids, giving them breakfast/lunch/dinner, park time, showers and so on, you have absolutely no time for yourself.

I think the problem is we allow society to set this unrealistic picture of what a “perfect mother” should be and we allow that to get to us and we forever try to prove that we’re perfect without realizing being a mother is emotionally/mentally/physically so difficult already and we add to that even more pressure on ourselves. Who says a perfect mother needs to be a stay at home mother? Who says a working mother isn’t a perfect mother? 

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Adam Starts School & My Fears!

I am honestly so emotional at the thought of my son starting school in September inshallah. I am excited but also scared as h*ll!!

 

This will be the FIRST time ever I leave my son with someone that’s not my mum or husband and I am not sure I like that feeling right now. I am very attached to my kids and of course being a stay at home mum means I am there for them 24/7. The thought of having someone else take care of him for 6 hours a day is scary.

 

How do you trust them?

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Suddenly Every Mom Is An Expert, An Author & A Doctor

Is it just me or the minute you become a mother, it’s like you’ve opened yourself up to criticism from every tom, dick and harry? I’ve never received so much advice, suggestion, and insults before. Suddenly every other mother is an expert and has the right to tell you how to raise your kids or question why your son doesn’t go to nursery when he is 2 years old when every other kid does.

 

 

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5 Tips for Living Away from Family

This is a guest post by Afra Said from ThroughMamasEyes. She has two children and is based in California in the US and her family is spread out between UK, Middle East & Kenya. She has been away from her family now for 6 years and prior to that was living away from parents and siblings for 2 years. She shares her experiences and wisdom on this topic and you can read more about Afra at the end of this post.

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Depression during my second pregnancy

What a lot of people don’t know is I was very depressed and overwhelmed during my second pregnancy. Adam was about 6 months old when we found out we were expecting our second baby. Different emotions went through my head but one that stood out and was more evident was my depression. I tried to keep it to myself as much as I could but then some days I just couldn’t and I would just vent out to my husband or mother. Trust me, we were excited about having another baby and Adam having a little brother/sister to play with, but we were too worried and scared to see it clearly then. Actually I think just me.

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