Is it just me or is this the MOST asked question to mums? I remember right after having Adam, I had people already asking me when I will give him a brother or sister, and there I was trying to just get back to “normal” with a newborn.
Not only do I find that question unnecessary, it’s also insensitive. Never ask a woman why she doesn’t have kids, when she’ll have a kid or anything to do with kids! It’s just not your business.
Some women can’t conceive and you asking those questions actually does so much damage than you can imagine. Some women have lost their kids, you asking “Why don’t you have kids” is heartbreaking to them. Unless they bring up the topic, DON’T ASK!
Something alot of people don’t know is I had an early miscarriage before I had Adam. And I put myself in the situation where someone asked me “why don’t you have kids” and honestly I think I would have just slapped them! Luckily for me no one asked me so I saved myself from an assault charge!
I’ve suddenly gotten people asking me when will I have my third baby? You don’t even know me! You don’t even know what’s going on in my life, where do you get off asking me that? And even if you did know me, how is that any of your business?
I feel like being a mother opens you up to so much criticism, questions and endless advice. Everyone apparently knows better how you should raise your kids except for you.
What was the most ridiculous question / advice you’ve ever received? What do people do or say that really gets to you?